Ideas and Quotes
Grief brings much more tension and stress into our life ... we pray these may help a little to reduce this tension and stress for you
Ideas
* Pray - tell God exactly how you're feeling. If you're angry, it's ok to tell Him ... tell Him anything and everything. He understands. He cares.
* Memorize Scripture
* Listen to worship music, or whatever music you enjoy ... music can be soothing and so healing
* Do something in honor of your loved one to help community, individuals, missions or a special cause you or your loved one care about
* Encourage someone else even in a small way
* Exercise ... even a short walk can make a big difference
* Journal or write a letter to your loved one saying things you want to tell them, especially if the death was sudden ... this is a good release for many ... keep or destroy as you think best
* Talk with a friend, pastor, counselor or therapist ... or share with a new friend in the Garden
* Enjoy the beauty around you ... birds, flowers, trees, crops or winter fields ... everything has it's own beauty
* Write your story for the Garden of Caring Community ... it often helps to let others know ... we care
Quotes
“I Am Standing Upon the Seashore”
by Henry Van Dyke
I am standing upon the seashore.
A ship at my side spreads her white
sails to the morning breeze and starts
for the blue ocean.
A ship at my side spreads her white
sails to the morning breeze and starts
for the blue ocean.
She is an object of beauty and strength.
I stand and watch her until at length
she hangs like a speck of white cloud
just where the sea and sky come
to mingle with each other.
I stand and watch her until at length
she hangs like a speck of white cloud
just where the sea and sky come
to mingle with each other.
Then, someone at my side says;
"There, she is gone!"
"There, she is gone!"
"Gone where?"
Gone from my sight. That is all.
She is just as large in mast and hull
and spar as she was when she left my side
and she is just as able to bear her
load of living freight to her destined port.
Her diminished size is in me, not in her.
And just at the moment when someone
at my side says, "There, she is gone!"
at my side says, "There, she is gone!"
There are other eyes watching her coming,
and other voices ready to take up the glad shout;
"Here she comes!"
and other voices ready to take up the glad shout;
"Here she comes!"
And that is dying.
Colette
“It’s so curious: one can resist tears and ‘behave’ very well in the hardest hours of grief. But then someone makes you a friendly sign behind a window, or one notices that a flower that was in bud only yesterday has suddenly blossomed, or a letter slips from a drawer… and everything collapses.”
Helen Keller
“What we once enjoyed and deeply loved we can never lose, for all that we love deeply becomes part of us.”
Unknown
“There are some who bring a light so great to the world that even after they have gone the light remains.”
Winnie the Pooh
“If there ever comes a day when we can’t be together, keep me in your heart, I’ll stay there forever.”
Elisabeth Kubler-Ross
“The reality is that you will grieve forever. You will not ‘get over’ the loss of a loved one; you will learn to live with it. You will heal and you will rebuild yourself around the loss you have suffered. You will be whole again but you will never be the same. Nor should you be the same nor would you want to.”
Irving Berlin
“The song has ended but the melody lingers on.”
John Taylor
“While we are mourning the loss of our friend, others are rejoicing to meet him behind the veil.”
Unknown
“Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal.”
Unknown
“Everyone copes differently, some cry for the loss of a loved one others smile because they know they’ll see them again.”
Latoya Alston
“Loss is only temporary when you believe in God!”
Eva Ibbotson
“You cannot stop the birds of sorrow from flying over your head, but you can stop them nesting in your hair.”
Unknown
“Those we have held in our arms for a short while we hold in our hearts forever.”
Hebrew Proverb
“Say not in grief ‘he is no more’ but in thankfulness that he was.”
Dorothy Ferguson
“Only a moment you stayed, but what an imprint your footprints have left on our hearts.”
Robert Louis Stevenson
“Like a bird singing in the rain, let grateful memories survive in time of sorrow.”
Queen Elizabeth II
“Grief is the price we pay for love.”
Anne Lamott
“You will lose someone you can’t live without, and your heart will be badly broken, and the bad news is that you never completely get over the loss of your beloved. But this is also the good news. They live forever in your broken heart that doesn’t seal back up. And you come through. It’s like having a broken leg that never heals perfectly-that still hurts when the weather gets cold, but you learn to dance with the limp.”
José N. Harris
“Tears shed for another person are not a sign of weakness. They are a sign of a pure heart.”
Anonymous
“When we lose someone we love we must learn not to live without them, but to live with the love they left behind.”
Anne Frank
“I don’t think of all the misery, but of all the beauty that remains.”
C.A. Belmond
“When people die,’ she said softly, ‘It doesn’t necessarily mean you’re ready to give them up.”
Eleanor Brownn
“Never take life for granted. Savor every sunrise, because no one is promised tomorrow…or even the rest of today.”
Fredrik Backman
“The mightiest power of death is not that it can make people die, but that it can make the people you left behind want to stop living.”
Jackson Brown Jr.
“Remember that everyone you meet is afraid of something, loves something, and has lost something.”
George S. Patton Jr.
“It is foolish and wrong to mourn the men who died. Rather we should thank God that such men lived.”
Renée Chae
“Death” is never an end, but a To Be Continued…”
Washington Irving
“There is a sacredness in tears. They are not the mark of weakness, but of power. They speak more eloquently than ten thousand tongues. They are messengers of overwhelming grief…and unspeakable love.”
Munia Khan
“Deep down inside we always seek for our departed loved ones”
Prateeksha Malik
“Death is tough for the people left behind on earth.”
Anonymous
“The only way to get over a death is by seeing it as a life completed, instead of a life interrupted.”
Dr. Seuss
“Don’t cry because it’s over, smile because it happened.”
Sir Walter Scott
“Death – the last sleep? No, it is the final awakening.”
Unknown
“When someone you love becomes a memory, the memory becomes a treasure.”
Michael McDowell
“All deaths are sudden, no matter how gradual the dying may be.”
The Truth About Forever
“Grief can be a burden, but also an anchor. You get used to the weight, how it holds you in place.”
Pastor Jack Wellman
Death is not the end. And for the Christian, death is nothing to be feared. Jesus came to conquer death, hell, and the grave – and He’s passed that victory on to us. If we believe in Him, then death is merely a transition from this world to our true Heavenly home.
Dwight L. Moody
As I go into a cemetery I like to think of the time when the dead shall rise from their graves. ... Thank God, our friends are not buried; they are only sown!
John Piper
I don't so much pray that my death will be without pain, but that it will be without doubt.
Adoniram Judson
I am not tired of my work, neither am I tired of the world; yet, when Christ calls me home, I shall go with gladness.
Charles Spurgeon
Never fear dying, beloved. Dying is the last, but the least matter that a Christian has to be anxious about. Fear living - that is a hard battle to fight, a stern discipline to endure, a rough voyage to undergo.
Helen Keller
Death is no more than passing from one room into another. But there's a difference for me, you know. Because in that other room I shall be able to see.
William Penn
For death is no more than a turning of us over from time to eternity.
Woodrow Kroll
Christians never say "good-bye" just "until we meet again."